My name is Victoria, and I’m your guide to SELF AWESOMENESS, a happier, joyful, and fulfilled life.

A few years ago, I was asked what my dream was and what was unique about me (by who? A friend, family member, colleague, etc) I was stuck and found it hard to answer the questions. I had mumbled something along the lines of passing my CPA (Certified Practicing Accountant) exam which, let’s face it…nobody was impressed by. So, what was my dream? My only dream was to be happy but what does it mean to actually be happy? Who knows? It varies from one person to the next and the way people view happiness can change over time.

Like most of you reading this, I’ve always spent a lot of time comparing myself to others. I would constantly think all of my friends are smarter, prettier, more stylish and they were able to follow their dreams. While here I was…no big dreams and no special quality or talent of my own to pursue. I felt like I still had everything the average woman wanted because I had a family with my husband and my son. Despite this, I still felt like something was missing. I heard that voice in the back of my head telling me “it’s not you” but who cared…I didn’t.

Remembering when I was young, I was the one who would sing songs to my mom’s coworkers while standing on a stool. Yeah, right in the middle of the room! I participated in every school event, including holiday performances, middle & high school beauty contests, and talent shows. You name it, I was in it! I even organized events for my friends and family, surprise birthday celebrations and so many other events. I also loved surprising my friends and family with gifts that I’d created because it brought me joy to see the happiness on their faces. I thought, where did that girl go?

I realized that remembering myself as a child made me sad because I wasn’t the same excited performer and active person anymore. I had reflected on where my life was heading and didn’t see any signs of the awesome girl I used to be. Instead, I saw a woman who was playing the role of being happy but truly wanted something more…I just didn’t know what it was. I didn’t even realize I needed support or guidance until…I was introduced to coaching.

I didn’t even realize I needed support or guidance until…I was introduced to coaching.

I was able to recognize the moment when the carefree, lighthearted, and fun little girl I was transformed into an insecure pleaser who was afraid to express her opinions. When I was 15 years old, I was transferred to a brand new school. I suddenly had new surroundings, didn’t know anyone, and felt like I had to try hard and struggle to fit in. Thinking back, I realized that I had continued living as that nervous 15-year-old girl with fears and insecurities for the last 2 decades. Boom! Mind blown!!

I knew it had to change and coaching helped me to look at the awesome gene that I had inherently had when I was born – My Awesomeness Gene! This is when I realized that the seed of self-awesomeness needs to be taken care of. I felt that I needed to go back to who I was before the insecurities seeped in. I wanted to feel like that free and light-hearted little girl again. I realized that the awesomeness wasn’t gone but rather dormant inside of me. Once I started watering and nurturing the seed again, I let the dead petals fall off and created new opportunities for growth and happiness. I gained a lot of knowledge and wisdom during the last two decades but it was time to redefine myself. My AWESOME self!!

In case you didn’t know, feeling AWESOME is AWESOME! Seeing and searching out life opportunities is awesome! Self-discovery is awesome and self-love is (you guessed it) AWESOME!

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Love yourself, and others will love you,” but where do you even start? We depend on the opinions of others to make decisions; we look for validation that we are doing things the right and normal way. However, only true self-love and reflection can lead you to your truly awesome self.

It is important to water your AWESOMENESS seed. Do not be afraid of the dead petals falling off or spreading your roots. Remember, these are the opportunities to discover your self-awesomeness.

P.S. I’ve discovered my dream. That is, to help people going through the same stuck and unhappy feelings I had. My goal is to help you to discover your SELF-AWESOMENESS. To fall in love with yourself and achieve the dreams and goals that you want to reach to be truly happy. Notice the life around you, and be totally in tune with your awesome self!

Check out the self-assessment test below to find out how you would rate your SELF-AWESOMENESS.