Have you ever had to make a tough decision and didn’t know what to choose? Are you in a current situation where you have to make a decision but doesn’t seem to know the right one?
Making the right decision in life might be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Using the technique I share with you here, you will feel much more clarity. Your decisions will lead to more happiness and you will get more results in life.
So, what’s the formula?
There isn’t a formula that will work for everyone. The truth is that we don’t need any formula. We have the answers to everything inside ourselves. I know, I know. It doesn’t seem to be like that. When you’re focused on your problem, focused on the thing you have to decide upon, you just can’t see the answer.
That is because the Law of Attraction – LOA (click here to learn more) – brings to you the same thing active within your vibration. If you’re desperate for deciding about something or finding its answer, what LOA will bring to you is more of what created the problem. You have to focus on the solution, you have to focus on the answer you want to find.
Making your decision
How do you do that?
You simply use your feelings to tell you what is the right decision for you.
When you feel frustrated for not knowing what to do, does that feel good or bad? It certainly feels bad. And that is because your higher self always knows what to do, even when the best thing to do in the moment is to leave the decisions for later and relax.
Now, how you do you tap into that knowing so you can make your decision? Pay attention to how you feel! If it feels good, it is right for you. If it doesn’t feel good, forget about it!
What I suggest you to do is to make a list of the possible decisions you might take. Then, focus singularly on each one of them and visualize your life if you had taken that decision. Let your feelings flow with that possibility. How does it feel? Good? Not so good? Awesome? Not good at all? Take note of it.
Once you go through this process, at the end you have a much clearer idea of what is the right decision for your life.
Remember that what is right to you may not be right to others. Maybe saying “right” could be misleading. Right to whom? It should feel right to you! Forget about everybody else and their opinion. Other people’s opinion about your life are always based on their own perspective of life, which is in turn based on their own life and their own experiences.
On the other side, you can never make a wrong decision.
Actually, leaving the “right” word out from the beginning is a good option. Any decision leads to a different path and every path has different life experiences. Therefore, there is no right or wrong, only different experiences.
Love or Fear
To close your decision, you might ask yourself:
Is this decision based on love or fear?
Then decide based on love! When you choose out of fear, you may spend your lifetime questioning yourself why you haven’t chosen the other option. That happens because your true self still wants the other option, so you keep feeling bad about the decision you have taken.
Now, when you make your decision based on love, you feel good with yourself. You feel as if you are respecting yourself and this might well increase your self-esteem while deciding based on fear will surely diminish it.
But beware of the word “love”. When I say: make your decision based on love, it isn’t based on what you think you love. It should be made upon what you truly feel love to.
Sometimes we are so used to not allow ourselves to feel love that we have difficulties in truly feeling it. If that’s your case, pay attention to what you feel fear, then rule out that decision.
Give yourself permission
Now, if you had made a decision in the past that no longer serves you or that is no longer making you happy, give yourself permission to make a different decision now.
We don’t have to attach ourselves to the same decision forever.
Free yourself and allow your decisions to be made every single day. You don’t have to do things in the same way every day. You don’t have to keep making the same decisions every day. Our personal preferences change all the time according to our experiences and circumstances in life.
Let me give you here an example of one decision I’ve made applying these principles I describe above.
I always wanted to get married since when I was a child. Being a girl, I was raised as a “princess” and my family and society taught me that if I wanted to be a happy woman, I would have to grow up, find a “prince” and marry him. Then I should take care of the house and our kids. There is nothing wrong with this, when you truly want it (when it’s not society trying to impose something on you).
So I grew up with this idea. Then, when I entered my twenties I started seeing my friends, cousins, colleagues getting married and starting to have children. After a few years of seeing this and because I believed I had to do the same, I was devastated. I didn’t know why all other girls could have but I couldn’t.
Of course, there were some limiting beliefs going on in my subconscious mind about relationships. But one day I heard about making decisions based on love…
That was a new concept for me. A very interesting concept as I have never made a decision based on love before, only based on rational thought. I have never stopped to really feel how each decision felt to me.
I was dating at that time and I wanted to marry him. I was actually very disappointed with our relationship because we were dating for years and he had told me he didn’t want to marry me (“at least not for the next five years”, that’s what he told me).
I started thinking if I really wanted to marry him. Of course I didn’t want to marry someone who didn’t want to marry me. Then, I realized that it could be any other guy in his place that I would want to get married.
I asked myself why was that, what was the feeling behind that. It was when I had a breakthrough. I didn’t want to get married just for getting married. I wanted to get married because I was afraid of not getting married “in time”. I was afraid of being alone, of being a single woman forever. I was afraid of what my family and people would think if all other girls of my age were married and I wasn’t.
See, wanting to get married was BASED ON FEAR.
On the other side, I didn’t have to fear being alone because I have always enjoyed being by myself, doing things by myself. I found out that I’m very independent and that I LOVE being free to do whatever I want to, including choosing to be in a relationship or not.
Getting married is now out of scope. It isn’t something I want for my life anymore. And I feel much better after I have decided not get married! However, I like to keep an open mind. This is the decision I have chosen for my life at the moment. If at a certain point, something makes me change my mind through love, I allow myself to make a different decision.
Have you ever made any decision based on love? What about decisions based on fear? Please share your story with us in the comment session below.
Lots of love,