How To Make The Right Decision in Life

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Have you ever had to make a tough decision and didn’t know what to choose? Are you in a current situation where you have to make a decision but doesn’t seem to know the right one?

Making the right decision in life might be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Using the technique I share with you here, you will feel much more clarity. Your decisions will lead to more happiness and you will get more results in life.

So, what’s the formula?

There isn’t a formula that will work for everyone. The truth is that we don’t need any formula. We have the answers to everything inside ourselves. I know, I know. It doesn’t seem to be like that. When you’re focused on your problem, focused on the thing you have to decide upon, you just can’t see the answer.

That is because the Law of Attraction – LOA (click here to learn more) – brings to you the same thing active within your vibration. If you’re desperate for deciding about something or finding its answer, what LOA will bring to you is more of what created the problem. You have to focus on the solution, you have to focus on the answer you want to find.

Making your decision

How do you do that?

You simply use your feelings to tell you what is the right decision for you.

making-the-right-decisionSee, whenever we have negative feelings it means that we are not aligned with our higher selves, which is the source within us. Source knows it all!

When you feel frustrated for not knowing what to do, does that feel good or bad? It certainly feels bad. And that is because your higher self always knows what to do, even when the best thing to do in the moment is to leave the decisions for later and relax.

Now, how you do you tap into that knowing so you can make your decision? Pay attention to how you feel! If it feels good, it is right for you. If it doesn’t feel good, forget about it!

What I suggest you to do is to make a list of the possible decisions you might take. Then, focus singularly on each one of them and visualize your life if you had taken that decision. Let your feelings flow with that possibility. How does it feel? Good? Not so good? Awesome? Not good at all? Take note of it.

Once you go through this process, at the end you have a much clearer idea of what is the right decision for your life.

Remember that what is right to you may not be right to others. Maybe saying “right” could be misleading. Right to whom? It should feel right to you! Forget about everybody else and their opinion. Other people’s opinion about your life are always based on their own perspective of life, which is in turn based on their own life and their own experiences.

On the other side, you can never make a wrong decision.

Actually, leaving the “right” word out from the beginning is a good option. Any decision leads to a different path and every path has different life experiences. Therefore, there is no right or wrong, only different experiences.

Your true self will know what’s best for you and will tell you the answer by the way you feel.

Love or Fear

To close your decision, you might ask yourself:

Is this decision based on love or fear?

Then decide based on love! When you choose out of fear, you may spend your lifetime questioning yourself why you haven’t chosen the other option. That happens because your true self still wants the other option, so you keep feeling bad about the decision you have taken.

Now, when you make your decision based on love, you feel good with yourself. You feel as if you are respecting yourself and this might well increase your self-esteem while deciding based on fear will surely diminish it.

But beware of the word “love”. When I say: make your decision based on love, it isn’t based on what you think you love. It should be made upon what you truly feel love to.

Sometimes we are so used to not allow ourselves to feel love that we have difficulties in truly feeling it. If that’s your case, pay attention to what you feel fear, then rule out that decision.

Give yourself permission

Now, if you had made a decision in the past that no longer serves you or that is no longer making you happy, give yourself permission to make a different decision now.

We don’t have to attach ourselves to the same decision forever.

Free yourself and allow your decisions to be made every single day. You don’t have to do things in the same way every day. You don’t have to keep making the same decisions every day. Our personal preferences change all the time according to our experiences and circumstances in life.

Allow yourself to decide for what makes you happy at every moment.

An example

Let me give you here an example of one decision I’ve made applying these principles I describe above.

I always wanted to get married since when I was a child. Being a girl, I was raised as a “princess” and my family and society taught me that if I wanted to be a happy woman, I would have to grow up, find a “prince” and marry him. Then I should take care of the house and our kids. There is nothing wrong with this, when you truly want it (when it’s not society trying to impose something on you).

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So I grew up with this idea. Then, when I entered my twenties I started seeing my friends, cousins, colleagues getting married and starting to have children. After a few years of seeing this and because I believed I had to do the same, I was devastated. I didn’t know why all other girls could have but I couldn’t.

Of course, there were some limiting beliefs going on in my subconscious mind about relationships. But one day I heard about making decisions based on love…

That was a new concept for me. A very interesting concept as I have never made a decision based on love before, only based on rational thought. I have never stopped to really feel how each decision felt to me.

I was dating at that time and I wanted to marry him. I was actually very disappointed with our relationship because we were dating for years and he had told me he didn’t want to marry me (“at least not for the next five years”, that’s what he told me).

I started thinking if I really wanted to marry him. Of course I didn’t want to marry someone who didn’t want to marry me. Then, I realized that it could be any other guy in his place that I would want to get married.

I asked myself why was that, what was the feeling behind that. It was when I had a breakthrough. I didn’t want to get married just for getting married. I wanted to get married because I was afraid of not getting married “in time”. I was afraid of being alone, of being a single woman forever. I was afraid of what my family and people would think if all other girls of my age were married and I wasn’t.

See, wanting to get married was BASED ON FEAR.

On the other side, I didn’t have to fear being alone because I have always enjoyed being by myself, doing things by myself. I found out that I’m very independent and that I LOVE being free to do whatever I want to, including choosing to be in a relationship or not.

Getting married is now out of scope. It isn’t something I want for my life anymore. And I feel much better after I have decided not get married! However, I like to keep an open mind. This is the decision I have chosen for my life at the moment. If at a certain point, something makes me change my mind through love, I allow myself to make a different decision.

Have you ever made any decision based on love? What about decisions based on fear? Please share your story with us in the comment session below.

Lots of love,

Michelle.

     

14 thoughts on “How To Make The Right Decision in Life

  • July 5, 2015 at 3:21 am
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    Bravo! this post is truly wonderful. I really love the design of this website by the way. Also, I am always telling people about the law of attraction. As well as try to teach people to focus less on problems and more on the actual solutions. Good Job I look forward to reading more of your work.

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  • July 5, 2015 at 6:51 am
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    Hi Michelle, what a great article up there! Making decision based on love, not fear. But, from my experience, I’ve been making decision rationally rather than love nor fear.

    For my own example, I’m used to be a machine designer, I like 3D design though, I’m not a so called social guy, but I do enjoy being well in my own small group of people. And but, rationally I know that I need to be social, I need to lift myself into sales line if I’m to one step further success in this business. I’m what I’m today as a senior executive engineer of sales & project, reporting to CEO.

    I’m currently not saying doing extremely well, but still “Okay” as what I am, but I can tell deep inside my heart for almost all the time, “I hate social here and there”, I felt so uncomfortable when there’s a need to entertain customer although I made it through professionally, but from the rational of me, I know that I need to be social for what I am now, and I’m keep pushing myself , I have a thinking of, “You need sacrifices to be successful”.

    Do you have any comment for me regarding to this situation? I know there’re successful machine designer there, but they end-up in the business line too and I’m very clear dealing with these customer.

    Anyway, love your article so much! Cheers!

    Smile of Joy, Bernard Eng.

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    • Michelle Medeiros
      July 6, 2015 at 2:11 am
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      Hi, Bernard! Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your struggles.
      I do understand how you feel as I am also not the most social type of person. I used to hate having to be social, especially at work. But then, after working on my self-esteem, I realized that the effort I had to put on being social started to melt away. I discovered that my true self is much more social than I thought. And when I don’t feel like being social, I don’t force myself to be and I feel comfort with this.

      I think that, by the way you’ve talked, being social or not is deeper than just making a decision.
      My advice for you would be:
      1. You seem to have a nice confidence about your work which maybe doesn’t reflect on situations when you have to talk to other people. From my experience, when we can’t seem to build that confidence despite our effort in trying so, it’s probably because of a lack of self-esteem. I think that working on increasing your self-esteem may help you. (I’m also still working on mine…)
      2. Don’t label yourself as anything, in this case as “not a social person”. This is usually based on past experiences. You are free to choose who you want to be NOW. Try releasing control and let your true self take charge.
      3. It would be nice to hear more from you so I could see from where this really comes from. It could come from the fear of not being accepted by others or some other fear. In this case, it would be good to find out what’s the underlying fear and then try to eliminate it (or you can “overwrite” it by developing more confidence and self-esteem as in #1).
      4. I see that you use the word “sacrifice” for “being social”. What I understand from this is that you feel heavy when having to be social, you feel like you have to sacrifice who you really are. Try looking at it from a different perspective. Think of being social as your challenge of the day, go with a positive mental attitude; you can imagine that whenever you have to be social, the “Super Bernard” appears and does the job. Then reward yourself with anything of your liking every time you are able to do it releasing at least a bit of the effort factor.

      Now, let me tell you that you don’t need to sacrifice yourself to be successful. All you need is to respect yourself, respect who you truly are (I wrote an article about this: http://www.selfawesomeness.com/how-to-get-success-in-life-what-they-dont-tell-you/).

      Bernard, I want to thank you for bringing this up. It gave me many ideas on helping people about this subject. I think I will be writing an article about it soon.

      By the way, you’re not doing “okay”, you’re doing GREAT!

      I hope this helps you. And please come back to share with us updates. It will be awesome to hear from you again.

      Thanks,
      Michelle.

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  • July 5, 2015 at 7:19 am
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    Good Morning Michelle,

    Wow, what a powerful and interesting article. I really enjoyed reading this as I have often struggled with decisions and can testify to making decisions out of fear not love. I know the next time I am struggling with a difficult one I will think of reading this and it will help.

    Your own story about marriage makes so much sense. As young girls we are “imprinted” into thinking we have a shelf life – which is just not the case. Each journey is different.

    Many thanks, Elinor 🙂

    Ps. I have bookmarked your site for future reference !!! It’s fantastic!!!

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    • Michelle Medeiros
      July 6, 2015 at 2:22 am
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      Thank you so much, Elinor!
      I’m happy that this is making people think about the decisions they’ve made in life and inspiring them to choose the path of love. If you do decide to use this technique when making your next decision, please come back to share it with us.

      Wish you all the best!

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  • July 5, 2015 at 11:55 am
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    Great website, love the theme, the pictures and the content. Keep up the good work!

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  • July 5, 2015 at 9:12 pm
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    I really enjoy reading your work. It always makes me search within myself to find the answers. I can remember doing things for fear rather than for my heart. I love that you used a very personal experience to show meaning behind what you are saying.
    I have one question, how did you make it so your posts have the read more button instead of just being super long?

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    • Michelle Medeiros
      July 7, 2015 at 2:47 pm
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      Hi Shannon! Thank you so much for your comment! 🙂
      Regarding the more button, you can simply add this piece of code in the text area (not the visual) into where you want the break of the content:

      Then you can change “Read More” into whatever you want. I like to use “… View Full Post”.
      Hope this helps!
      Michelle.

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  • July 6, 2015 at 9:39 am
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    Sometimes you find your life reaches a crossroads and it can be tricky making what you think is the right decision. For me, there are some words that should be banned from the dictionary, perfect, normal and failure. These are all comparison words based on criteria set by other people!

    My method when making a decision is to “listen” to how my body feels. If I get “butterflies” this is good, I’m going out of my comfort zone. A dread, panicky feel means “don’t do it”!

    As you say, whatever the outcome of a decision it’s all learning, and sometimes, what you thought was a wrong decision all turns out well in the end. 🙂

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    • Michelle Medeiros
      July 7, 2015 at 2:32 pm
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      Hi Kathy! I agree with you we should banned some words from our vocabulary and I love that you have chosen words we usually use to compare ourselves. The first word I’ve banned was “impossible”. Actually I’ve turned it into “i’m possible”, meaning I can do anything. This is a great to look at life!
      I love that you also have the perspective of looking at everything in life as something to learn.
      Thank you for your comment, Kathy!

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  • July 12, 2015 at 7:25 pm
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    When I saw your post title, I thought to myself: “how the hell is she going to going handle this difficult topic convincingly?.”

    Well I must say you handled it with ease and it made so much sense to me. I have heard many gurus say the same thing before,” just follow your guts or feeling.”

    But I never really knew how to apply their advice practically. I think the missing part was making the decision for love or fear. Thanks to your posts, I now understand how use to my feelings to make decision. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

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    • Michelle Medeiros
      July 24, 2015 at 5:50 pm
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      Thank you so much, Tebogo! I’m thrilled that you found my post helpful in a way you can apply it to your life. That’s the whole point why I write posts like this. To help people improve themselves and their life. And it is really satisfying to hear your words.
      Thanks!!!

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